How to Have Anal Sex

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Anal sex is when someone puts their penis, fingers, or a sex toy into another person’s anus (bottom). People of all sexualities might enjoy it. Some people are curious about trying it, while others may not like it- and that’s perfectly okay.

If you’re thinking about having anal sex, it’s important to know how to do it safely and comfortably. This guide can help answer your questions.

Anal sex, when not done safely, has a higher chance of passing HIV or other infections (called STIs) than other types of sex. To stay safe, always use a condom the right way. Condoms help protect both you and your partner.

It’s also a good idea to use lubricant (or lube) during anal sex. The anus doesn’t make its own natural moisture, so lube helps reduce pain and makes everything feel smoother and more comfortable. When used with a condom, it can also help prevent the condom from breaking.

Remember: only do anal sex if both people say yes and feel good about it. Respect, safety, and comfort are key.

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What Is Anal Sex?

Anal sex is when a penis, finger, or sex toy is put into someone’s anus (the opening of the bottom). When someone uses their mouth to touch or lick the anus, it’s called oral-anal sex or “rimming.”

Anyone- no matter their gender or sexuality- can enjoy anal sex, whether they’re the one giving or receiving.

How Do You Have Anal Sex?

If you’re trying anal sex for the first time, it might feel strange. That’s normal. Start slow and be gentle.

Before you try putting anything inside, it helps to softly touch and rub the anus. This helps the muscles (called the sphincter) relax, which makes things more comfortable.

Use a lot of water-based lube to make things smoother. You can begin by inserting just a little bit, then pulling out. When your partner feels ready, you can go a little deeper each time. Always listen to your partner and stop if they feel pain or discomfort.

It may take a few tries to feel fully comfortable with anal sex, so don’t worry if it’s not perfect the first time.

Can Anal Sex Hurt?

Anal sex can hurt if it’s done too fast or without enough lube. To avoid pain:

Make sure both people are relaxed
Go slowly
Use plenty of water-based lube
Try using fingers or sex toys first
Talk openly with your partner

If it feels painful, stop immediately. You never have to continue if you don’t feel okay.

Can You Get Pregnant from Anal Sex?

No, you can’t get pregnant from anal sex because semen (sperm fluid) doesn’t reach the vagina. However, if semen leaks from the anus to the vagina, pregnancy might be possible. That’s why using a condom is a good idea- it also protects against infections.

Should I Try Anal Sex?

Only try anal sex if you and your partner both feel ready and comfortable. If one person doesn’t want to, that’s okay- never feel pressured. It’s always okay to change your mind before or during.

What Is the Prostate and Can It Be Stimulated?

Men have a gland inside their body called the prostate. It’s located between the bladder and penis and can feel very good when touched during anal sex. You can do this gently with a finger or toy. Always use lube and be careful- this area is sensitive and can bruise easily.

Can You Get HIV or STIs from Anal Sex?

Yes. Unprotected anal sex has a higher risk of HIV and STIs, especially for the person receiving it. The inside of the anus is delicate and can tear easily, which makes infections more likely.

But there are ways to protect yourself:

How to Stay Safe During Anal Sex

1. Use Condoms

Put condoms on the penis or on sex toys
Change condoms when switching between partners or between different types of sex
Use a new condom if going from anal to vaginal or oral sex
Use a dental dam (a small sheet of latex) for oral-anal sex

2. Take PrEP

PrEP is a daily pill that helps prevent HIV.
It works best if taken correctly and regularly.
PrEP does not protect against other STIs.
PrEP might not be available in all places.

3. Use Lubricant (Lube)

Water-based lube makes sex smoother and helps prevent tearing.
Don’t use oil-based products like baby oil or Vaseline, as they can damage condoms.

4. Clean Up Safely

Wash hands, sex toys, and genitals when switching between types of sex
Use a fresh condom if changing from anal to vaginal/oral sex
To clean the anus before sex, use warm water or mild soap, and be gentle

What If I’ve Had Unprotected Anal Sex?

If it happens, don’t panic. Get medical advice as soon as you can.

You might be able to take PEP– a medicine that can stop HIV if taken within 72 hours. You can also get tested for other STIs and talk with a health professional about staying safe in the future.

Why Testing Matters

Getting tested regularly for HIV and STIs helps protect both you and your partner. If you have HIV and take treatment regularly, the virus can become “undetectable,” meaning it can’t be passed to others.