Protecting yourself from STIs (sexually transmitted infections) is something both you and your partner should care about. That’s why it’s best to talk about protection before things get sexual- not during or after.

If you feel shy or unsure about bringing it up, don’t worry. Here are some helpful ways to make that conversation easier:

Start on a Positive Note

Talking about sex can feel personal or sensitive, so be kind and respectful. A good way to begin is by sharing what you enjoy during sex, then gently suggest what you’d like to try or do differently.

For example, you could say:

“I really enjoy it when we do [this], and I was wondering how you’d feel about trying [that]?”

This helps keep the mood comfortable and respectful.

Don’t Forget to Listen

It’s not just about what you want. Your partner may have thoughts, concerns, or desires too. Let them speak and really listen to what they say.

Keep the Conversation Going

Once you start being sexually active, it’s important to keep talking about sex. Honest communication helps you both feel closer and makes your sex life better. Remember, your partner can’t know what you’re thinking unless you tell them.

If talking about safer sex feels too awkward or stressful, it might be a sign you’re not quite ready to have sex. And that’s completely okay.

There are plenty of other ways to feel close and enjoy time with your partner that don’t involve having sex.

Having Sex for the First Time

Sex is a personal experience, and the choice to have it for the first time is completely up to you. Only you can know when it feels right.

Sex can be enjoyable and something that feels good- but it should never be something you’re pressured into. If you’re not ready, that’s completely okay. Take your time, and only move forward when it feels right for you.